Random video chat. Nobody is introduced to anybody here; you are simply both there.
The single condition
You have to be 18 to be in here. Are you?
Confirm it and the next page is the chat itself. Say nothing and this stays a page about it.
I am 18 or over — go onChat with Girls
The hard part of talking to a woman you have never met is not the talking. It is everything just before it: deciding to go over, working out how to start, and then waiting to hear whether that was welcome.
Chat with Girls takes that part out. Nothing here picks anybody: two people arrive on the same call a second apart, already looking at each other, with nothing asked and nothing owed. Whatever either of you says first lands in a conversation that started without it.
That sounds like a small mechanical detail. Most of what makes meeting someone new difficult lives inside it, though — the effort of making an approach on one side, and the work of being gracious about an approach nobody wanted on the other. Take that out and what remains is two people and about four seconds to decide whether they feel like talking.
Being bad at that is survivable.
Two rooms, the same five minutes
Put yourself in a room with people in it — a bar, a party, a queue that is not moving — and then in Chat with Girls, and run the same five minutes twice.
Somewhere with people in it
- Who starts it
- You do, deliberately, in front of everyone.
- What it costs
- A decision, and the walk over.
- If she would rather not
- She has to say so kindly, and you both stay in the room.
- How long that takes
- As long as she needs to be polite for.
Here
- Who starts it
- Nothing does. You are both simply there.
- What it costs
- Exactly what not doing it costs.
- If she would rather not
- She moves on, you move on, and nobody performs a refusal.
- How long that takes
- A few seconds, and it runs both ways.
The third row is the one people underrate. Turning somebody down costs something to do — not much, but enough that plenty of women steer clear of the settings that generate a whole evening of it. With nothing to turn down, there is nothing to steer clear of, and that, more than anything on the feature list, is why the room has women in it at all.
Nothing has to be turned down here, because nothing has been asked. Take out that single step and most of the difficulty leaves with it.
Manners, minus the ones that were about the approach
None of that makes the place lawless. Reports go to people who can act on them, and the ordinary business of being in front of somebody still applies. There is just less of it than you are used to, because a good half of our social rules exist to manage the exact step this format removed.
- Say something. Four seconds of silent inspection reads far worse than a clumsy opening line does.
- Ask for nothing in the first minute. Not her name, not where she is, and not anything else either.
- Let a skip be a skip. Reconnecting on purpose for another go is the closest thing this place has to following somebody.
- Keep the report button for reports. It is for the things that need a human looking at them, not for people who bored you.
The things people want settled first
Do I have to sign up?
No account, no form to get through, and no record of you left anywhere once the tab is shut.
Will it run on a phone?
Yes, straight in the browser, front camera and all. Stand the phone against something first: holding it makes you wobble, and it is oddly hard to talk while you wobble.
What if it is quiet?
Then it is quiet. Weekday afternoons can be thin and you will hit stretches of nobody at all. Evenings after nine are the honest answer, most nights.
Can she tell where I am?
Not from here. She sees whatever your camera sees and not one thing more — no account, no location, nothing that trails after either of you.
Who is actually here, and at what hour
It skews female enough to be worth the phrase at the top of this page, and not so far that I would promise you a run of women all evening. Some nights you will go a while. After dinner is the busy stretch, and the room changes character past eleven: fewer people on, longer conversations with the ones who are.
- women on a break
- students between classes
- people on the late shift
- quiet talkers
- the merely curious
- first-timers
There is a version of this page that would tell you how to be interesting for six minutes. That is not the skill. The skill is saying an ordinary thing at an ordinary speed to somebody who turned up a second ago, and the only reason that is difficult anywhere else is that you had to earn the right to try it first.
Here nobody has to earn it, which leaves very little to do except say hello and see.